Maturity is a Myth
Deep introspection, the quest for answers and some stuff...
Hey 100+ fam 👋
I did a lot of introspection, made poor decisions, vented, and read a lot this week.
I guess many of you will relate to this letter, do let me know your thoughts.
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Maturity is a Myth
In the past week, I attempted to be mature about everything in my life. From personal stuff to getting rejected from a role at a firm I dreamed of for the second time.
I was disturbed would be an understatement. I was tormented after reading this.
I tried to come up with all the philosophies, stoic stuff, and motivation to strive harder for my goals and dreams.
Journalling everything from heartbreaks to little events wasn’t coming to any aid. I realized that I was trying too hard to let things go and simultaneously hold on to the best ones.
A person who thinks all the time has nothing to think about except thoughts, so he loses touch with reality and lives in a world of illusion. - Allan Watts.
When we think too much, trying to come up with solutions, we end up with mental exhaustion. Everything needs its own time, and so does healing from setbacks.
Breathe, Breathe, Breathe! 😮💨
Don’t pretend to be a mature person, fooling your brain into understanding every situation.
We learn from experiences of life, and when we get hurt or rejected, it’s natural to cry sometimes. It doesn't come easy to most of us cause we act ‘mature’. So yesterday, with all the doubts in my heart, and low self-confidence, asking mom, ‘Am I not good enough or smart enough? where am I going wrong?’. She said, ‘ When we try too hard to get something or achieve something at the expense of our health and natural tendencies, we burn out. Things take their own time, and we must always prepare. God will give it to you.’
Moms are never wrong, and letting it all out does help.
Don’t be mature at an age when you are not supposed to. Who set all these rules for maturity? Accepting emotions, showing empathy, communicating honestly and understanding people who care for you are more important than following IDGAF jargon and ‘ignorance is the key’ instilled by Instagram into you.
Maturity is a myth. We are all allowed to feel and express ourselves, which makes us human.
Quest for Answers
We try too hard to find answers to the tragedies of life. Some examples:
‘Why this happens to me all the time?’
‘Why do I suffer the loss?’
‘Why am I not smart enough?’
‘Why he/she is acting this way?’
‘How could this happen to me?’
‘What have I done wrong?’
Stop Stop Stop
We all try to find answers to these things, in books, from people and our friends and family.
Brutal Truth: Sometimes there ain’t any answers. We just need to accept the facts.
Sometimes we are hurt too deeply or in the middle of a crisis that we don’t want to accept things, so we put a fight between our heart and brain. This fight is a nasty one.
When you search for answers, you end up being a villain to people and often hurting yourself and others.
Burry the dead, accept it and move on.
Here are 10 amazing philosophies you can follow:
Credit: Pradologue
A great man is hard on himself. A small man is hard on others.
This too shall pass.
Death is closer than you think.
Only worry about things you can control.
Live and Let Live.
You suffer more often in imagination than in reality.
Treat someone like you want to be treated.
Happiness = Reality - Expectations.
Seek pain.
Nothing is permanent.
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Nainika.
Is it a coincidence??? I am going through something very similar right now. And I was kinda able to relate with every word written over here.. Absolutely loved the piece.