Seeing Clearly, Living Fully
Intellectual masturbation, eyes never lie, burner theory, ethereal experience....
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I’ve been a little MIA on WhatsApp and Instagram lately as lots of things have been quietly brewing behind the scenes.🙈 I’m feeling especially excited about what’s coming up in March and April (if only we could add a couple of extra hours to each day!).
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Intellectual Masturbation
Around the 20th of February, I had an uncomfortable realisation. I was reading a lot, listening to podcasts, and consuming content like it was my full-time job. I was making notes, thinking deeply, writing, basically doing everything that looked productive.
But when I paused and asked myself whether I was actually improving, implementing, or taking the action required of me, the answer was a clear no.
I had bought three or four books and was underlining them with a highlighter as if my life depended on it. I was listening to back-to-back podcasts: intellectual, business, spiritual—but none of it was translating into practice. When the moment comes, will I remember any of it? More importantly, will I act on it?
What I was really doing was constantly stimulating my brain under the illusion of growth.
Intellectual masturbation is consuming knowledge without converting it into action.
It’s the habit of staying busy to avoid doing the uncomfortable work. Of feeling productive without producing anything. Of learning endlessly while staying exactly where you are.
Experiential learning is the only learning that truly sticks. I’m not saying stop reading or listening to podcasts but do it mindfully, with an intention to implement. Read one book in three months if needed, but practice what it teaches. Keep what works. Let go of what doesn’t. Not every idea is meant for you.
Intellectual masturbation is a terrible way to pass time. It drains you mentally and sometimes even ruins patterns that are already working, just because someone two steps ahead said it didn’t work for them.
The only upside is humility. It reminds you how vast the world is and how much there is still to learn.
Still, it’s worth keeping a check on.
Eyes Never Lie
One of the most important things studied in micro-expressions and body language is the eyes. Look into someone’s eyes long enough and you begin to sense intention. Love, lust, hatred, betrayal, truth, lies, joy, sadness: almost everything passes through them before words ever do.
Eyes speak before mouths learn how to lie.
Imagine Dragons captured this beautifully in Demons:
When you feel my heat
Look into my eyes
It’s where my demons hide
There’s a reason those lines land so hard. The eyes are where the unfiltered self lives, the parts we try to control but often can’t.
If you really look into someone’s eyes, you can read them. The only caution is this: don’t let your desires cloud what you see. Wanting something badly has a way of rewriting reality.
This awareness helps tremendously in partnerships, business and dating. And somewhere along the way, I’ve felt that women notice this far more intuitively, sometimes before anything is even said.
Just sharing a thought, and a small poetic reminder:
( Watch Till End)
The Burner Theory
Imagine your life as a stove with four burners: health, work, family, and friends/relationship. The fuel is your time and effort. You only have so much of it.
The theory says that successful people usually keep three burners on. The ultra-successful often survive with just two.
Think about it. Narendra Modi largely runs on work and health. Jeff Bezos has openly spoken about how family took a hit while building Amazon. Mark Zuckerberg is famously introverted, emotionally guarded, and distant from friendships. A student preparing for an extremely tough exam often sacrifices health and social life without a second thought.
So what’s the way around it?
Balance, but not the Instagram version of it.
This is something I learned while observing people in Gujarat. From Monday to Friday/ Saturday, they keep two burners on: work and health. Weekends are reserved for family and friends. Clean boundaries. Clear compartments. Beautifully done.
Another way is phases. For two or three intense years of building, work and health take priority. Once you reach a certain point, family and relationships move back to the center. It requires mindful planning, but life is meant to be experienced fully. After all, whom will you celebrate success with if you don’t nurture the people who care about you?
As a workaholic myself, I try to create small rituals with friends. Nothing fancy—sometimes it’s just a Friday night chai walk. Do we follow it every single time? Of course not. But it keeps me grounded and rejuvenated.
If you ever find yourself at Bangalore airport, step into Mitti Cafe. It’s run by people with disabilities, and you’re greeted not just with food, but with warmth, smiles, and stories. Pure love.
Most Ethereal Experience
I’ve written before about meditation, how it helped heal my hormonal imbalance and how, for the last six months, I haven’t experienced anxiety, goosebumps, or that familiar inner chaos. Pressure feels easier to hold now. I respond instead of react.
Recently, I cried again, but this time, they were tears of happiness.
I attended the Mahashivratri celebration at Art of Living, and the experience felt nothing short of magical. Give me an occasion to wear chaniya cholis and dance, and I’ll jump around like a child and that night, my inner child had the best time.
What moved me most was watching Gurudev (Sri Sri Ravi Shankar) get teary-eyed while speaking about his devotion. There was so much honesty in that moment. Love can be painful, but love for God is blissfully painful and that’s what makes it pure.
I speak to God more than I speak to humans. And when I don’t for three or four days, life feels strangely dull, less adventurous, like something essential is missing.
I’m sharing a small clip below. Somewhere deep inside, I truly believe God misses you too.
You take one step toward the universe, God, energy, whatever you wish to call it and it takes ten toward you. You offer a little, and it gives back abundantly.
Give as much love as you can.
Some interesting Articles/ Letters
Child’s Play - Tech’s new generation and the end of thinking
James Clear. - Author of Atomic Habits certainly used AI in his newsletter but we get it - Idea is what matters 😜.
“Trust follows consistency.
The business that delivers a quality product every time earns the customer’s trust.
The person in the relationship who shows up reliably — who keeps promises, who responds with steadiness — earns the trust of the other.
The pattern is the proof.”
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Nainika
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