Less Control, More Trust
Won't change a thing, sacred lines, story and stuff.....
Dear gentle reader,
A few hours late publishing this, I wasn’t feeling too well.
Thank you for all the love you’ve been showering on the content… it really means a lot.
I had a lot more planned, both in my head and sitting in drafts but March had its own pace, its own chaos. I couldn’t bring it all together this time. Maybe April will be kinder to those ideas.
Also received some really thoughtful suggestions on expanding a few parts, definitely something I’m looking forward to building on.
Dive in… and would love to hear what stayed with you.😁
No Edits, No Regrets
I’ve always believed that things happen in the order they’re meant to. People call it destiny, if that fits the lens, maybe it is. But for me, it’s simpler than that. I wouldn’t be the person I am today if everything—good and bad—hadn’t happened the way it did. Maybe the order could’ve been different, but the experiences themselves were necessary. They had to happen to shape me into who I am.
The achievements, the fun moments, the friendships, the situationships, relationships, heartbreak, rejections… every single thing. The way it all unfolded, and the way I came out of it. I wouldn’t change a thing.
There’s a different kind of liberation that comes when you accept everything in your past and stay open to every possibility in the future. People say “live in the present,” but no one really tells you how. The truth is, you can’t live in the present if you’re constantly condemning, analysing, or trying to fix your past.
One thing that helped me was simple. Take 4–5 pages. On each page, write down a difficult memory or moment. Divide the page into two parts: on the left, write how you felt, and on the right, write what you learned or how you overcame it. Do the same for your good memories and achievements: on the left, how you felt, and on the right, what worked for you.
When you see it all in front of you, something shifts. There’s a sense of acceptance that comes with it. You start to realise how beautifully you’ve evolved as a person.
And if a part of you still says, “But the trauma, the pain…” ask yourself, have you unknowingly become attached to that pain? Has it become your default state? Because sometimes, we hold on longer than we need to.
I’m not a psychologist. But I’ve been in a place where I wanted to go back and change things. Today, I don’t feel that need anymore. Not even the small “I shouldn’t have said that” or “I could’ve done that differently” moments. The only thing I can do now is be more mindful moving forward, because I understand the consequences better.
Chaos, Intuition, and Letting Go
March didn’t go exactly as planned. Some things worked… some really didn’t. And somehow, it felt like the longest month to sit through.
Ahmedabad for a close friend’s wedding… an unexpected allergy… pulling off an event… launching something new at work… and then ending it all with a bad stomach. Just one thing after another. Not bad, not great….just a lot. The kind of month that keeps you on your toes whether you like it or not.
In between all of this, a I did watched Dhurandhar 2🙈. Nothing dramatic, just a moment to switch off.
But what stayed with me more was this quiet shift, I was more intuitive this month. Less reactive, more accepting. Because when things feel chaotic, I somehow always come back to these lines:
Sochai soch na hove je soche lakh vaar
Chupai chup na hove je laae raha liv taar
Bhukhia bhukh na utree je banna pureeaa bhaar
Sehas sianpaa lakh hohi ta ik na chalai naal
Kiv sachiyaara hoeeai kiv koorai tutai paal
Hukam rajaaee chalnaa Nanak likhia naal
Not everything can be solved by thinking harder.
Not everything settles by forcing silence.
Not everything fills, no matter how much you add.
And maybe that’s the point.
You can plan, push, and try to control every outcome…
but some things are just not in your hands.
So you step back a little.
You trust a little more in Nanak ji.
And you keep going… knowing some things are already written.
Story Time
Stuck In Head
Elon Musk, in The Book of Elon, on self-limiting: “Most people self-limit their ability to learn. Just read books and talk to people. I didn’t study rocket engineering, I picked it up along the way.”
"The problem is, we look for someone to grow old with, while the secret is finding someone to stay a child with." - Charles Bukowski
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Nainika
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